Jennifer Lehr - ParentSpeak : What's Wrong with How We Talk to Our Children - And What to Say Instead read ebook TXT, MOBI, PDF
9780761181514 English 0761181512 A provocative guide to the hidden dangers of "parentspeak"--those seemingly innocent phrases parents use when speaking to their young children. Imagine if every time you praise your child with "Good job!" you're actually doing harm? Or that urging a child to say "Can you say thank you?" is exactly the wrong way to go about teaching manners? Jennifer Lehr is a smart, funny, and fearless writer who "takes everything you thought you knew about parenting and turns it on its ear" (Jennifer Jason Leigh). Backing up her lively writing and arguments with research from psychologists, educators, and organizations like Alfie Kohn, Thomas Gordon, and R.I.E. (Resources for Infant Educarers), Ms. Lehr offers a conscious approach to parenting based on respect and love for the child as an individual., A provocative guide to the hidden dangers of parentspeak those seemingly innocent phrases parents use when speaking to their young children. Imagine if every time you praise your child with Good job you re actually doing harm? Or that urging a child to say Can you say thank you? is exactly the wrong way to go about teaching manners? Jennifer Lehr is a smart, funny, and fearless writer who takes everything you thought you knew about parenting and turns it on its ear (Jennifer Jason Leigh). Backing up her lively writing and arguments with research from psychologists, educators, and organizations like Alfie Kohn, Thomas Gordon, and R.I.E. (Resources for Infant Educarers), Ms. Lehr offers a conscious approach to parenting based on respect and love for the child as an individual. ", Imagine if every time you praise your child with "Good job!" you're actually doing more harm than good. What if asking a child "Can you say thank you?" is exactly the wrong way to go about teaching manners? And would you still say "I'm going to tickle you!" if you knew it had just as much potential to terrorize as to delight? Jennifer Lehr is a smart, funny, fearless writer who, in the words of the actress Jennifer Jason Leigh, "takes everything you thought you knew about parenting and turns it on its ear." Backing up her lively arguments with research from psychologists, educators, and organizations, including Thomas Gordon, Alfie Kohn, Peter Gray, and R.I.E. (Resources for Infant Educarers), Ms. Lehr takes on "parentspeak"--the seemingly innocuous language parents fall back on when talking to their young children--and, in the process, offers a conscious, compassionate approach to parenting based on respect and love for the child as an individual. So what to say instead of "Good job!" the next time your daughter shows off her new painting? Demonstrate actual interest by asking her to describe the work and sharing your impressions of it. And what's wrong with "Who's a big boy!"? It sells the idea that older is somehow better--so often used by parents trying to potty train a child--and discounts the child's own fears about change. Readers will be surprised when they realize how often they rely on these phrases, and then become proselytizers for the wisdom of "GOOD JOB!" There's nothing as compelling in the lives of young parents as the subject of parenting--particularly when it comes with the promise of strengthening their relationships with their children along the way., Imagine if every time you praise your child with Good job you re actually doing more harm than good. What if asking a child Can you say thank you? is exactly the wrong way to go about teaching manners? And would you still say I m going to tickle you if you knew it had just as much potential to terrorize as to delight? Jennifer Lehr is a smart, funny, fearless writer who, in the words of the actress Jennifer Jason Leigh, takes everything you thought you knew about parenting and turns it on its ear. Backing up her lively arguments with research from psychologists, educators, and organizations, including Thomas Gordon, Alfie Kohn, Peter Gray, and R.I.E. (Resources for Infant Educarers), Ms. Lehr takes on parentspeak the seemingly innocuous language parents fall back on when talking to their young children and, in the process, offers a conscious, compassionate approach to parenting based on respect and love for the child as an individual. So what to say instead of Good job the next time your daughter shows off her new painting? Demonstrate actual interest by asking her to describe the work and sharing your impressions of it. And what s wrong with Who s a big boy ? It sells the idea that older is somehow better so often used by parents trying to potty train a child and discounts the child s own fears about change. Readers will be surprised when they realize how often they rely on these phrases, and then become proselytizers for the wisdom of GOOD JOB There s nothing as compelling in the lives of young parents as the subject of parenting particularly when it comes with the promise of strengthening their relationships with their children along the way."
9780761181514 English 0761181512 A provocative guide to the hidden dangers of "parentspeak"--those seemingly innocent phrases parents use when speaking to their young children. Imagine if every time you praise your child with "Good job!" you're actually doing harm? Or that urging a child to say "Can you say thank you?" is exactly the wrong way to go about teaching manners? Jennifer Lehr is a smart, funny, and fearless writer who "takes everything you thought you knew about parenting and turns it on its ear" (Jennifer Jason Leigh). Backing up her lively writing and arguments with research from psychologists, educators, and organizations like Alfie Kohn, Thomas Gordon, and R.I.E. (Resources for Infant Educarers), Ms. Lehr offers a conscious approach to parenting based on respect and love for the child as an individual., A provocative guide to the hidden dangers of parentspeak those seemingly innocent phrases parents use when speaking to their young children. Imagine if every time you praise your child with Good job you re actually doing harm? Or that urging a child to say Can you say thank you? is exactly the wrong way to go about teaching manners? Jennifer Lehr is a smart, funny, and fearless writer who takes everything you thought you knew about parenting and turns it on its ear (Jennifer Jason Leigh). Backing up her lively writing and arguments with research from psychologists, educators, and organizations like Alfie Kohn, Thomas Gordon, and R.I.E. (Resources for Infant Educarers), Ms. Lehr offers a conscious approach to parenting based on respect and love for the child as an individual. ", Imagine if every time you praise your child with "Good job!" you're actually doing more harm than good. What if asking a child "Can you say thank you?" is exactly the wrong way to go about teaching manners? And would you still say "I'm going to tickle you!" if you knew it had just as much potential to terrorize as to delight? Jennifer Lehr is a smart, funny, fearless writer who, in the words of the actress Jennifer Jason Leigh, "takes everything you thought you knew about parenting and turns it on its ear." Backing up her lively arguments with research from psychologists, educators, and organizations, including Thomas Gordon, Alfie Kohn, Peter Gray, and R.I.E. (Resources for Infant Educarers), Ms. Lehr takes on "parentspeak"--the seemingly innocuous language parents fall back on when talking to their young children--and, in the process, offers a conscious, compassionate approach to parenting based on respect and love for the child as an individual. So what to say instead of "Good job!" the next time your daughter shows off her new painting? Demonstrate actual interest by asking her to describe the work and sharing your impressions of it. And what's wrong with "Who's a big boy!"? It sells the idea that older is somehow better--so often used by parents trying to potty train a child--and discounts the child's own fears about change. Readers will be surprised when they realize how often they rely on these phrases, and then become proselytizers for the wisdom of "GOOD JOB!" There's nothing as compelling in the lives of young parents as the subject of parenting--particularly when it comes with the promise of strengthening their relationships with their children along the way., Imagine if every time you praise your child with Good job you re actually doing more harm than good. What if asking a child Can you say thank you? is exactly the wrong way to go about teaching manners? And would you still say I m going to tickle you if you knew it had just as much potential to terrorize as to delight? Jennifer Lehr is a smart, funny, fearless writer who, in the words of the actress Jennifer Jason Leigh, takes everything you thought you knew about parenting and turns it on its ear. Backing up her lively arguments with research from psychologists, educators, and organizations, including Thomas Gordon, Alfie Kohn, Peter Gray, and R.I.E. (Resources for Infant Educarers), Ms. Lehr takes on parentspeak the seemingly innocuous language parents fall back on when talking to their young children and, in the process, offers a conscious, compassionate approach to parenting based on respect and love for the child as an individual. So what to say instead of Good job the next time your daughter shows off her new painting? Demonstrate actual interest by asking her to describe the work and sharing your impressions of it. And what s wrong with Who s a big boy ? It sells the idea that older is somehow better so often used by parents trying to potty train a child and discounts the child s own fears about change. Readers will be surprised when they realize how often they rely on these phrases, and then become proselytizers for the wisdom of GOOD JOB There s nothing as compelling in the lives of young parents as the subject of parenting particularly when it comes with the promise of strengthening their relationships with their children along the way."